4. Don’t take things personally – Imagine the scenario, where one morning you go to your office and greet your boss, like any other day. However, the boss ignores you completely and keeps doing the work. You quietly go back to your workspace and your mind starts a chatter, “maybe I made some mistake, maybe because I asked for appraisal yesterday, maybe it’s because of the board meeting that is due tomorrow, that boss ignored me”.
If you just take a step back and observe, you have labeled a small behavior with your million thoughts, while the boss was busy managing the documents for his daughter’s admission. He was not even thinking about you the entire moment.
This is just one example of the million things that happen in our day-to-day life and a lot of us start personalizing it without giving it a thought. What you can do instead is, the moment such a chatter starts in your head, pause and tell yourself, “Maybe it was a bad day for him. It has nothing to do with me.” No matter whom you meet in your life, you will find the shade grey and not white or black. Understand that everyone is fighting their own battle, so, the least you can do is stop judging and taking things personally. Concentrate on the positive aspects of any conversation, because what you concentrate on grows.